My coaching style is different from most, in that it prioritizes reconnection with what’s happening in your body, and building skills to recognize, work with, and allow for your somatic (body) experience to play a main role in your personal growth journey.

We’ll work together to build skills that help you get to know what’s happening inside of you, so that you can integrate and honor the body’s messages on the regular.

We’ll move at a pace that’s right for your nervous system so as not to do too much too fast. You’ll gain deeper insights into the ways you may be unconsciously operating from a fight-flight-freeze state, and build skills to help your body come back into a regulated state.

You are the expert here, not me. I deeply believe you’re the expert of your own experience and your path toward growth and healing. I’m not here to give you advice or influence your process with my knowledge– I’m here to co-create a container with you for you to get reconnected to the wisdom and knowledge that’s already within you.

This means we’re always going to be working at a pace that’s right for you, we’re going to focus our attention to what’s most present and important for you in each session, and we’re going to work on building your sense of self-trust so that you can begin to recognize your Self as your biggest resource.

I’m not going to give you a list of homework items or to-do’s. I’m not going to bombard you with all there is to know about somatic work or personal growth hacks.

This work is not about doing more or knowing more. It’s about creating space for you to pause and become aware of what’s happening inside of you, so that you can take more values-aligned actions IRL.

That spaciousness to pause is where the magic happens. That’s what I’m here to help you create and explore.

I believe all coping is adaptive. Meaning, all the ways in which you self-soothe are wise, valid, and have helped you to feel OK through painful times. This being said, I also recognize that not all coping skills might be serving you or your values and goals in the long-term. One way to look at this is to start differentiating between “survival” coping skills and “creative” coping skills. There are those coping skills you use to just get through the pain or stress. And there are those that you use when you feel grounded enough to take the long road; tools that may not make the pain go away in the short term, but bring you closer into alignment with your vision and values.

Harm reduction shows up in my coaching practice because we’ll at one point or another likely be talking through your go-to coping skills, and exploring how they serve you (and perhaps how they don’t). But I will never ask you to give up a coping skill under the premise that it’s “bad.” What I will ask you is to explore what happens in you when you use your coping skills, what the risks are, and if the risks outweigh the rewards.

Ultimately my aim is to help you generate a set of coping tools that support you in regulating your nervous system and bring you closer to your big dreams.

Radical Acceptance is a phrase borrowed from one of my teachers, Tara Brach. She poses that radical acceptance is a practice in asking, “what’s happening inside of me right now?” and then “Can I let that be?”

In other words, the work we do together is not going to focus on analyzing or ‘fixing’ your thoughts or internal stories, but we will be practicing bringing awareness to them, accepting them and being curious about them from a place of mindful compassion.

It’s in this practice of acceptance -of ALL the thoughts- that we can separate our Selves from the stories, and create space for presence, connection, ease, healing and joy.

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Connection can be thought of as 4 pillars. Connection to Self, others, nature and spirit.

Our work will include rebuilding this sense of connection, because it’s through connection and co-regulation that our nervous systems are able to regulate and come back into a “safety social” state, or in other words, the state in which we feel most calm, open and grounded.

Emergence or Emergent Strategy comes from the work of adrienne maree brown. In essence, adrienne defines it as “a strategy for building complex patterns and systems of change through relatively small interactions, and as an adaptive, relational way of being.” Emergent Strategy also looks to nature for models of how to be together and be in this world.

For our purposes, this means we’re going to trust that our small, daily actions matter, and shape larger patterns of growth and change over time. It means we’re going to work on moving with change, rather than forcing it. We’re going to follow the wisdom that arises within you. We’re going to partner together to create adaptive changes that will bring you into alignment with your greater purpose and gifts. And we’re going to work on building trust that whatever change arises naturally is the right change, at the right time.